By Beth Bolthouse, MA, MS, LPC

(Originally published in the Michigan Counseling Association April 2020 Newsletter)

As counselors we are the ones who are the “go to” when others are hurting, stressed, feeling alone, having challenges, going through difficult times.  So what do we do when we are in the midst of a worldwide pandemic that affects not only our clients, but also our family, our friends, and even ourselves.  I’ve found myself the past several weeks working from home, providing care and support to others and realized (after losing sleep and experiencing some irritability) that perhaps I’ve not been applying my own counsel.  Here are some things that have been helpful to reduce my own stress and anxiety levels during these days of COVID-19:

• At the end of the day, take off my professional “hat” and remember I’m a human being with a personal life, including acknowledging the experiencing of day-to-day stressors many others are going through.

• Mindfulness applies to me as well as my clients, therefore be intentional about choosing my focus each morning before getting out of bed, and throughout the day as things unfold.

• Physical activity matters, even if it is getting up and going outside to take in fresh air, walking around the house, taking my dogs out more frequently, or deciding to finally clean out that closet which somehow became filled with miscellaneous storage.

• Journaling isn’t just for clients; it is a great tool for me to express my feelings, thoughts, hopes and help me keep my focus in a good place.

• Spirituality is an important way to maintain a sense of peace and calm, whether it’s through prayer, music, meditation, connecting with a friend online or through a phone call, or watching the YouTube video of a spiritual mentor. 

As we continue making changes in our professional lives to accommodate the needs of our clients, we also can find creative ways to ensure we meet our own personal needs.  Reaching out for emotional support from a trusted friend or colleague can go a long way toward helping us manage our own hearts and heads so we continue to provide meaningful support to those who are hurting.